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Indian soldiers take great pride in the crease of their trousers, the twirl of their moustache and the shine on the metal and leather they wear.

Arms, medals, epaulettes are all brought to the perfect shine before a parade. One key item of inspection is the glint on the ammunition boots.

One enterprising regiment, the story goes, instead of using polish bought a box of Asian Paints paint and used it to good effect on the boots. Asian Paints managing director & CEO PM Murty doesn’t know if it’s a true story, though he joined the company way back in 1971. What he does know is that such small purchases can make the distinction between profit and loss, survival and extinction.

Asian Paints has for long sold very small cans of paint which are used to colour the horns of bulls during the Pola festival in Maharashtra and the auspicious small red and yellow stripes at the bottom of the front door of Tamil Nadu homes.

This might not always be remunerative, but it has given a tremendous boost to the company’s brand recall. When the market is up, everybody makes money. But when the chips are down, only resilient brands stay afloat.

Gone are the days when being pregnant meant wearing anything loose and shapeless. With the trend of maternity fashion catching on fast in India,
there are a plethora of super speciality stores in every city catering to this segment and their collection includes everything from lounge wear, casual wear, party wear, work wear and active wear.

Remember the following:

- Wear what is comfortable

- You don’t necessarily need maternity clothes from day one of your pregnancy. For the first few months, you can continue wearing loose fitting clothes or even larger sizes

- A belly belt is a great way of turning your favourite pre-pregnancy clothes into inexpensive and trendy maternity wear! Shop intelligently for your growing shape.

- It may be wise to invest in loose/front opening T-shirts, tops and nightdresses that can also be worn after the baby is born.

- Try to select dresses made of cotton or other natural fibres as you tend to feel quite warm in pregnancy.

- Try to mix ‘n’ match as much as possible. It is economical and also adds colour and variety to your wardrobe.

-Make accessories an essential part of your wardrobe: nice earrings, striking scarves, etc. help to make you look and feel brighter.

What to choose?

Casual wear: Choose soft and stretchable cotton tees in bright summer colours and in trendy silhouettes with lace and soft frills. Choose blouses in summer voiles with soft frills and delicate embroideries. Evening wear: Pick an evening wear dress with flattering silhouettes. Bright floral prints on stretched poplin and flowing crinkle chiffons are the ideal grab.

Shoes and tights: It is very important to select comfortable, low-heeled footwear. Beware of high and flat heels. It is also best to avoid shoes with laces, as with your growing size, tying them will be a nightmare. Support tights may be useful to relieve aching legs, swollen ankles and varicose veins.

Lingerie: A good support bra is essential all throughout pregnancy to provide comfort and also to prevent breasts from sagging. Buy a couple of them first and then buy more when you outgrow these. It may be a good idea to get yourself measured for a perfect fitting maternity bra (many stores now offer this facility). It may be useful to buy sleeping bras if your breasts are tender and need support at night.

The modern Mother’s Day holiday was created by Anna Jarvis as a day for each family to honor their mother, and it’s now celebrated on various days in many places around the world. It complements Father’s Day, the celebration honoring fathers.

This holiday is relatively modern, being created at the start of the 20th century, and should not be confused with the early pagan and Christian traditions honoring mothers, or with the 16th century celebration of Mothering Sunday, which is also known as Mother’s Day in the UK.

In most countries the Mother’s Day celebration is a recent holiday derived from the original US celebration. Exceptions are, for example, the Mothering Sunday holiday in the UK.

It is celebrated in the United States each year on the second Sunday of May.

Different countries celebrate Mother’s Day on various days of the year because the day has a number of different origins.

One school of thought claims this day emerged from a custom of mother worship in ancient Greece, which kept a festival to Cybele, a great mother of Greek gods. This festival was held around the Vernal Equinox around Asia Minor and eventually in Rome itself from the Ides of March (15 March) to 18 March.

The ancient Romans also had another holiday, Matronalia, that was dedicated to Juno, though mothers were usually given gifts on this day.

Sore nipples: A lot of mothers complain about tender nipples that make breast feeding painful and frustrating. There is good news though, as most mothers don’t suffer that long. The nipples will toughen up quickly and render breast feeding virtually painless.

Improperly positioned babies or babies that suck really hard can make the breasts extremely sore. Below, are some ways to ease your discomfort:
1. Make sure your baby is in the correct position, since a baby that isn’t positioned correctly is the number one cause of sore nipples.
2. Once you have finished feeding, expose your breasts to the air and try to protect them from clothing and other irritations.
3. After breast feeding, apply some ultra purified, medical grade lanolin, making sure to avoid petroleum jelly and other products with oil.
4. Make sure to wash your nipples with water and not with soap.
5. Many women find teabags ran under cold water to provide some relief when placed on the nipples.
6. Make sure you vary your position each time with feeding to ensure that a different area of the nipple is being compressed each time.

Clogged milk ducts Clogged milk ducts can be identified as small, red tender lumps on the tissue of the breast. Clogged ducts can cause the milk to back up and lead to infection. The best way to unclog these ducts is to ensure that you’ve emptied as completely as possible. You should offer the clogged breast first at feeding time, then let your baby empty it as much as possible.

If milk remains after the feeding, the remaining amount should be removed by hand or with a pump. You should also keep pressure off the duct by making sure your bra is not too tight.

Breast infection Also known as mastititis, breast infection is normally due to empty breasts completely out of milk, germs gaining entrance to the milk ducts through cracks or fissures in the nipple, and decreased immunity in the mother due to stress or inadequate nutrition.

The symptoms of breast infection include severe pain or soreness, hardness of the breast, redness of the breast, heat coming from the area, swelling, or even chills.

The treatment of breast infection includes bed rest, antibiotics, pain relievers, increased fluid intake, and applying heat. Many women will stop breast feeding during an infection, although it’s actually the wrong thing to do. By emptying the breasts, you’ll actually help to prevent clogged milk ducts.

If the pain is so bad you can’t feed, try using a pump while laying in a tub of warm water with your breasts floating comfortably in the water. You should also make sure that the pump isn’t electric if you plan to use it in the bath tub.

You should always make sure that breast infections are treated promptly and completely or you may risk the chance of abscess. An abscess is very painful, involving throbbing and swelling. You’ll also experience swelling, tenderness, and heat in the area of the abscess. If the infection progresses this far, your doctor may prescribe medicine and even surgery.

In my carefree kid days, homework was often left behind–sometimes in my unmade bed, on my desk, or on the floor, falling victim to the morning rush. And, yes, I usually left projects, reports, and test preps to the last minute–when I remembered them at all. Made my grades suffer and my mother gnash her teeth. In fact, it got so bad that one day, in addition to her usual refrain of, “Why can’t you be more like your sister?” she declared, “Young lady, you’re a guest in my house, and I’ve had enough of your nonsense.” Now, when my mother set herself on a course of action, there was no turning back. She had me in her sights–no wiggle room. And so, as a seventh grader, my mother single-handedly remade me. By organizing my life, her house looked better–and so did my grades and attitude. Now I’m passing along the favor.

While some kids are remarkably organized, many are frequently in a state of disrepair, searching for misplaced papers and playing catch-up. What about your child? To start, check off the following statements that ring true, and then we’ll talk solutions.

QUESTIONNAIRE

1. My child sometimes/often leaves projects and reports to the last minute.
2. My child sometimes/often studies for tests at the last minute.
3. My child’s coat/jacket usually lands on the floor.
4. My child sometimes/often neglects to record assignments, so we don’t know what needs doing.
5. My child seldom/never posts upcoming tests, projects, or reports where they are readily displayed and remembered.
6. My child does not have a storage place for school supplies.
7. My child’s notebook is a jumble of papers.
8. If my child’s locker looks like his/her bookbag or room, I don’t want to see it.
9. My child seldom sorts and correctly files the day’s papers.
10.My child sometimes/often tosses out returned worksheets and tests at the end of a unit of study–or even before!
11.My child sometimes misplaces completed homework and so loses points.
12.My child leaves schoolwork strewn about and then rushes around in the morning trying to gather it all up–sometimes unsuccessfully.

Now, add up your checkmarks. More than eight suggests that your child, like me in days of old, needs an organization makeover. With four to seven checks, some fix-ups are in order. Three or less, lucky you. Next up, some management tips for the rest of us. Start by shopping for school supplies together, and be sure to include an assignment book. Also buy a sturdy binder–nothing spiral-bound–together with a pencil case, a made-for-a-binder three-hold punch, and pocket folder for gathering worksheets. New assignments should be stored in the right pocket, then moved to the left pocket once completed. This way, no misplaced homework. Also be sure to purchase plenty of dividers–one for each major subject, plus one each for its accompanying notes, tests/quizzes, and returned homework. Usually just one divider will do for minor subjects, such as art and health.

At home, maintain a supply box, basket, shelf, or drawer for such supplies as notebook paper, pencils, pens, highlighters, index cards, poster board, printer ink cartridges, etc. You’ll also need a dictionary and thesaurus. Then, once school starts, make assignments are recorded every day. Not sure? Then request teachers’ signatures. And, to avoid forgetting, it’s also helpful to display a large calendar for recording long-term assignments, such as projects and reports, along with important dates and extracurricular activities. Meanwhile, teach your child all about filing and have him/her sort and correctly file papers, so nothing is ever misplaced or lost. Call it “housecleaning” and make it a weekend habit. At the same time, maintain an over-sized notebook or box for storing completed units of study for later reference and final exam preps. Finally, create a Drop Spot for gathering all school-related materials at bedtime, ready for grabbing come morning. Lunch can be waiting in the fridge.

And let’s not forget about your child’s locker, as it has the potential of eventually overflowing with papers, old lunches, and missing gloves. Insist on periodic tidying. Then, along with a bottle of water, consider a zippered bag filled with such items as a low-fat energy bar wrapped in aluminum foil to discourage mice, two sharpened pencils, a box of colored pencils, a small pencil sharpener, two pens, a small package of tissues, phone change, $5.00, emergency numbers, plus your work and/or cell number. It never hurts to be prepared!

So there you have it, a start-up kit of tips for sorting though the clutter and helping your child put and keep everything in its rightful place, findable at a moment’s notice. As a Wal-Mart ad once declared, “Life is so much easier when it’s organized.”

Motherhood is continuously full of surprises and the first time mother is often overwhelmed with how stressful it can be to be totally responsible for a newborn infant. Infants demand care constantly and, particularly when coupled with hormonal fluctuations that can occur after giving birth, the first few weeks with a new baby can be a strange mixture of joy and absolute, draining exhaustion. Imagine, then, that instead of bringing home one squalling infant, the new mother has to bring home two. The art of parenting twins has unique challenges that the mother of a single child can not imagine.

Having twins is not simply twice as hard as having a single baby. There are certain dynamics in the parenting of twins that can not be duplicated in a single child system. For example, the single child must sleep at some point, and the mother can find sleep and downtime by matching her schedule to the baby’s. However, with twins, it is conceivable that at least one child can be awake at any time. This makes it absolutely vital that twins be placed on identical schedules as early as possible. Of course, this can often be easier said than done, particularly in the early months.

It is important to remember that there is no shame in asking for help when parenting twins. This task is monumental and, to be up for it, you will have to have rest, downtime, and emotional support. The husband can help out on weekends and in the evenings or, for single mothers, friends and family can be enlisted for support. Church groups, mother’s day out programs, and other community based organizations may be able to help as well. It is important to find support in any way that you can.

Of course, there are real world advantages to having twins as well. One bonus, particularly as the children get a bit older, is that they have a ready made, built in playmate. Therefore, twins do not typically require as much entertainment from the parent. Also, many first time mothers of twins are surprised to find how many online shops and retail outlets provide free giveaways to parents of twins. It is possible to save thousands of dollars during the first year on supplies for parents of twins using these offers.

Successful parenting means taking the time to understand what our children need to be fulfilled, confident, and happy. Of course, that’s no small task.

Here are 14 guiding principles:

1. First and foremost, recognize the true gravity of your task. Parenting successful, emotionally happy children involves a great deal of important, mindful work - and huge, sweeping swaths of time. The first step is to accept that fact- and to embrace the role of parent as one of the most important roles anyone has ever taken on.

2. Have a ball. Just because our task is immensely important…that doesn’t mean it can’t also be great, great fun. Life with a family is a magnificent adventure- not simply a hassle filled with laundry and dishes. Remind yourself of this as often as necessary. And when the daily work of parenting starts to feel like drudgery, it’s time to devote a day (or, at the very least, an afternoon) for intense family fun. Get some tickets to a ballgame and relax.

3. Spend a lot of time with your children. When you do so, children recognize that they are worth lavishing with time, praise, and attention.

4. Exhibit healthy, successful habits. If you want your kids to be healthy, fit, kind and compassionate, you’ll need to live that way, too. Treat your mind, body, and soul with the utmost respect. Model caring, kindness, and compassion by working together (as a family) on a volunteer project a few hours a month.

5. Listen well. Strive to be honest, open, and attentive with your spouse and kids. When your children are speaking, get down on their level, ask questions, and really listen to their point of view. True listening does wonders for your children’s self esteem, and it helps them to grow into good listeners themselves. Minimize social contact with adults who are continually “shushing” the children.

6. Show your children that you are genuinely interested in them. Make sure to let them know - through your words and behavior - that you care about what they like to do, even if that’s altogether different from what the rest of the family enjoys. Get involved in activities that interest your child. Whatever it is, learn the lingo and sit down to learn from your child.

7. Try not to criticize, but work with your child on mistakes in a respectful way. Never criticize in front of other adults or children, including siblings. Work to understand their unique point of view. Taking the time to do so sends a message that you accept and trust their decisions and that their opinions are valuable and important.

8. Don’t label your kids - even when those labels sound harmless. Try not to tell your children that they are shy or overly dramatic or too sensitive. Respect the person whom they are and the adult they are becoming, while respecting all the stages they will grow through to get there.

9. Choose your battles very carefully, and allow natural consequences to teach the lessons themselves whenever possible.

10. Be accepting of your children’s friends. Encourage your children to invite their friends over.

11. Be enthusiastic. Make sure your face lights up when your children come near you.

12. Share family stories, whether through a family journal, a scrapbook, or by simply telling one another over and over again about the memories that you treasure. Read aloud at all ages and stages. Cuddle up under a blanket in the evenings to read silently, each with a different book. Ask your kids to make up stories and tell them aloud - or create illustrated books to share.

13. Treasure all the generations. Revere the grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins. Show your children that family is something they can count on for their entire lives.

All this can be distilled into one simple rule: Never let the big picture fade from view. In other words, make sure you have identified your true goal as a parent and live from that frame of mind. For example: My only goal as a parent is to raise happy, kind children who trust themselves and who enjoy peace of mind. If, this week, they decide to eat Top Ramen every night for dinner and sometimes forget to put their shoes in the closet, so be it.

Enjoy the joyful journey of this tremendous task of parenting.

Through my research and personal experience, I’ve found that these 3 mistakes are responsible for more failed dates and relationships with men than any other factors. Here they are:

» Mistake #1: Leading A Man To Think You Are “Needy” And “Insecure”

Did you know that there are 6 ways you can set off a man’s “Insecurity Alert” and make him think twice about pursuing a relationship with you?

Sadly, even confident women often “accidentally” give off one of these signs… and just one can kill the chance of a man asking you on a second date.

As you read through these signals men pick up on as “needy” and unattractive, ask yourself if YOU have ever been guilty of committing one of these deadly mistakes:

* Talking or saying nasty things about your past boyfriends.

Saying bad things about men you have been involved with actually reflects the negatively back on YOU. It makes a man worry you are carrying around “baggage” that HE will have to deal with should he become involved with you.

* Speaking negatively about other women.

When women call other women names like “slut”, “bitch”, and “crazy”, it is anything but impressive to a man you are attracted you. Women will often do this when they see a good looking, desirable woman, especially if they feel their man might be attracted to her. This just makes a man think you are trying to cover up your own insecurities, and looking for validation and attention. Not good.

* Too much physical contact, especially in public.

If you are constantly hanging on a man or touching him too much he’ll start to see it as clingy behavior… but you’ll never hear about this from him. It’s far better to save your touches for short and infrequent moments that will surprise and enchant him.
The next 3 are far deadlier, but less obvious… and it’s important that you learn what they are and how to avoid giving them off.

But before I show you how to do that, let’s talk about mistake #2:

» Mistake #2: Appealing To His “Sexual” Side Instead Of His Emotional Side

Many women make the mistake of thinking that men are primarily driven by sex alone… and think if they can attract a man SEXUALLY they will be able to attract him EMOTIONALLY as well.

Women too often give up sex to a man in the hopes that it will translate into a relationship and get them what they want. In reality, a man has the capacity to view a sexual connection and an emotional connection as two entirely different things, and it requires a special set of skills to mold these two things together in a man’s mind… and keep them connected.

Men are out for far more than just sex… and a woman who knows how to fulfill a man EMOTIONALLY and SEXUALLY will be the woman who captures a man’s heart… and gets that same fulfillment for HERSELF. In a moment, I’ll show you how you can learn to do just that…

» Mistake #3: Not Knowing How To Size Up A Man’s “Relationship Potential”

A lot of women will decide whether or not they should put energy into building a relationship with a man based on ATTRACTION.

Yes, attraction is important. But it can also be DANGEROUS.

When we feel a strong sense of attraction for someone, it can cause us to override our logic and ignore our instincts… leading us to overlook potential partner’s deadly faults that could spell trouble down the road.

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that is dragging you down, this is probably why.

It’s important to be able to size a guy up and spot any “warning signs” of a future bad relationship FAST… so you don’t waste any of your time or emotional energy on someone who isn’t right for you… or who will leave you heartbroken. Fortunately this is a fairly easy thing to do, and I’d like to show you how…

Have you ever wondered “what is the secret to a long and happy marriage?”
These secrets to a happy marriage come straight from the horse’s mouth — those who are happily married!

Never assume.

Compliment more than you criticize.

For each time you vent about your husband/wife to your friends, tell three positive stories.

Remember that it is ok to do things differently (e.g. there is more than one way to peel a potato or fold the laundry).

Always make time for the two of you.

Marry someone that you enjoy listening and talking to.

Remember that marriage is sometimes a bed of roses and sometimes there are thorns.

Remember that the best gift that you can give your children is to love their mother/father.

Be fair! Split the housework, spending money, etc evenly. This way you are never resentful of your partners contributions (or lack of) or expenditures.

Never go to bed angry. (Unless it’s 3a.m. and you’re exhausted, angry, and not thinking straight.)

Remember that people do fight. It’s how you do it that matters.

Before starting an argument, consider if it’s really worth it.

Agree to disagree.

Never, ever mention the “D” word (divorce).

Do you want to be right or do you want to be married?

Respect each other’s privacy.

Remember that “love is like childhood. You need to learn to share.”

Marriage is not 50/50, it’s two people giving 100/100 all of the time.

Surprise each other now and then.

The secret to a happy marriage is two TV’s!

Have date night!

Never pass up an opportunity to say “I love you”.

Hold hands.

Hug & kiss every day (several times a day actually!).

Always believe that you got better than you deserved.

Be quick to say “I’m sorry”.

Choose the one you love, then love the one you choose.

Love isn’t always a feeling, it’s a decision.

Hang in there. It’s worth it.

Play nice, play often, love much.

Never air your dirty laundry as a couple in public.

Never keep secrets from each other.

Be each other’s champion. No matter what, take your husband or wife’s side first!

Communication is the key!

Always respect each other.

Never underestimate the power of a good belly-laugh and don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself.

It’s the little things that matter most.

Never use the words ‘Always’ and ‘Never’ in a fight.

It’s ok to argue, but never use curse words to express your anger.

Never compare your marriage to others. What you see on the outside is not always what it is on the inside.

Don’t make love in the same place/position everytime. Variety is the spice of life!

I came across a list titled: “48 Tips to a Happy Marriage”. I thought that they are worth mentioning and maybe exploring. I wonder how much of these are followed by couples in our society and do they find them relevant and applicable?
Since I am still single; I will comment about each one from my own perspective and state what I think about it; by that; I am not dictating or promoting anything, I am just thinking in the form of writing.

The list goes as follows; if you become bored while going through them, stop and come back later because I found them very interesting and I am hoping you will do too:

1. Start each day with a kiss ~ I think this one is not that hard; on the contrary; it can be healthy and nice.

2. Wear your wedding ring at all times ~ most couples do wear the ring, however; their reasons might vary, so as long as they think of it as a sign of their commitment to their spouses, then they are on the safe side.

3. Date once a week ~ I believe this one is very healthy; maybe not as often as once a week, let’s say every other week or that a date can be inside your home and that you don’t have to go somewhere fancy to have it, you get the idea, right?

4. Accept differences ~ No one is perfect. However; healthy arguments are good for the relationship, hence; the most important thing would be learning how to compromise with one another.

5. Be polite ~ Please, thank you, you are welcome… these are not only meant for strangers; your own spouse and family should come first and you must always use these phrases inside your home.

6. Be gentle ~ a person is supposed to be the closest to his/her spouse, being gentle is crucial to keep them close enough or they will find that comfort elsewhere.

7. Give gifts ~ nice small gifts are appreciated every once in a while

8. Smile often ~ I would say: Smile Always because it is contagious and you are more likely to be smiled at when you show your teeth more often!!

9. Touch ~ intimacy between married people is very important and touching is a means of communication that reflects closeness, connection and love; it is your way of keeping the spark alive.

10. Talk about dreams ~ dreams of the future that is; if you don’t share your dreams with your spouse; then who?

11. Select a song that can be “our song” ~ this sounds like a cliché, but it can be nice, don’t you think?

12. Give back rubs ~ this means: be comforting both mentally and physically and if you don’t know how to give back rubs and massages; it is time to learn!

13. Laugh together ~ laughter is like smiling and as they say: it is medicine. When you share good laughs together; the fun grows in the relationship and you grow closer and stronger every day.

14. Send a card for no reason ~ another cliché? Maybe, but everyone likes to receive a nice “I love you” or “I miss you” notes every once in a while; it does boost one’s ego, doesn’t it?

15. Do what the other person wants before he or she asks ~ of course; you need to know your spouse so well to be able to do this one. I guess this comes with time as you grow to know each other but seek to get that knowledge; don’t assume that it will come to you!

16. Listen ~ this could be the most important one ever, but note that you should listen with empathy and not just hear what they are saying; you should get involved.

17. Encourage ~ positive support and being there for one another is also very important; seek their support and give them yours and be generous!

18. Do it his or her way ~ sometimes; you need to do things their way just to show how much you love them and respect their feelings.

19. Know his or her needs ~ what good is a spouse if he/she does not know the needs of their significant others? This should be your primary concern!

20. Compliment twice a day ~ everyone likes to hear something nice as a compliment; so give them that when it is due. It should not be literally twice but don’t be extreme by not giving at all or giving too much; just say something nice when you can.

21. Fix the other person’s breakfast ~ it doesn’t have to be breakfast in bed though!

22. Call during the day ~ but don’t over do it and be obsessed with calling him/her. Give them their space but also show them that you think of them by a 2-minutes phone call saying “how are you doing?”

23. Slow down ~ and don’t jump to conclusions; always give the benefit of the doubt and wait to hear them out.

24. Cuddle ~ yes; intimacy is very important and reflects love and deep feelings.

25. Ask for each others’ opinion ~ absolutely; whose opinion would you seek if not your spouse’s? Your decisions will reflect both your lives and not only your own, so their opinion is important for you to make the right move.

26. Show respect ~ all the time; whether you are alone or among others. Showing respect is more important than showing love.

27. Welcome the other person home ~ show enthusiasm when they come home and greet them; this means that you are happy because they are home now and that you were waiting for them!

28. Look your best ~ I understand that this is not easy to implement since we face different situations all day long, however; it does count that you make the effort to look your best every once in a while just for their sake and not only because you are going out or expecting guests, get the point?

29. Wink at each other ~ another cliché? Probably, but it can be any other gesture like smiling their way across the room or dining table, or holding their hand for a minute, just anything that appeals to both of you.

30. Celebrate birthdays in a big way ~ this does not mean a big party; just show them you care about their personal occasions.

31. Apologize ~ and don’t be too stubborn to admit that you made a mistake, because apologizing can clear things between you and allows you to move on from the conflict in a healthy manner.

32. Forgive ~ from the heart and not only in words; forgive them and mean it.

33. Set up a romantic getaway ~ this sounds like fun every once in a while; no harm in that!

34. Ask, “What can I do to make you happier?” ~ in other words; communicate and keep it going, because one’s needs might change along the way, and what they used to like a couple of years ago might not be appealing to them now; so make sure you ask them what does make them happy and do it.

35. Be positive ~ even when it is a negative era of your lives; always try to show the full half of the cup.

36. Be kind ~ and nice.

37. Be vulnerable ~ let those guards down and show your true colors.

38. Respond quickly to the other person’s request ~ show them that you are doing this because you care for them the most.

39. Talk about your love ~ again; communicate. Always tell them as well as show them how much you love them and how happy you are because of having them in your lives.

40. Treat each others’ friends and relatives with courtesy ~ even if you don’t like their family and/or friends, you treat them with respect and courtesy for the sake of your spouse; they deserve that much.

41. Send flowers every Valentine’s Day and anniversary ~ or just for the sake of it; flowers can say a lot on your behalf.

42. Admit when wrong ~ don’t be too arrogant to say it.

43. Be sensitive to each other’s sexual desires ~ more importantly; understand these desires and keep the communication going.

44. Pray for each other daily ~ and do it from the heart.

45. Watch sunsets together ~ just share such moments together; it does not have to be sunset; it can be anything else.

46. Say “I love you” frequently ~ don’t assume that they know you love them; everyone likes to hear it, so say it!

47. End the day with a hug ~ show closeness and again; intimacy.

48. Seek outside help when needed ~ if you reach a point when you feel that you cannot solve the problem alone; seek the help of someone you both trust before giving up, or go for professional help as a last resort. Never feel ashamed of that; seeking help is a lot better than giving up and doing your very best to solve your issues. You owe it to yourself and to them to do that.