Jan 29 2009
Difference between “love” and “in love”
There is a difference between “love” and “in love”.
I can say I love my mom, my dogs, my brother, my friends (may be same gender or opposite gender) but that does not mean I am in love with them. So I was thinking how can we really define being “in love” with somebody? Affection is the path or reality of caring and niceness but lack of sexual interest. Attraction (Infatuation) is the path that leads to sex. When a woman feels affection for you, youre probably too much of a nice guy. She may think of you as just a friend or maybe even a potential husband who has provider stamped all over his forehead. Maybe youd be someone she can end up bossing around if you remain complacent. Affection is something you feel for a puppy dog. (FOR YOU - May be you are unable to boss him / treat him as a puppy dog and are getting upset then it is OK to continue) Attraction is something entirely different. When a woman feels the powerful emotions of attraction and attributes it to you, all kinds of interesting things are going to happen. (now if you are feeling attraction for this guy - YOU NEED to be CAREFUL - as you are already married - as may be due to attraction you stand a chance to surrender in certain circumstances and may become physical with him - which will be lead to TRAGEDY some day) Being seen as a lover is different than the social archetype of being a provider. whether you are emotional and understand women or not, you can still get to sex because of the attraction and emotion SHE is going through. If a woman feels affection for you, things will rarely lead to sex, unless attraction is added and then it is defined as in-Love. Whether you are emotional and understand women or not, you can still get to sex because of the attraction and emotion SHE is going through. If a woman feels affection for you, things will rarely lead to sex. When she loses attraction in a long-term relationship, there will usually be less sex and literally it is forced sex - means she just surrenders because of to compensate for your affection.
